How can this be? How can a person be alone but at the same time not alone?
To understand, we must see ourselves as God our Father created us from the beginning.
From Genesis, we learn that He formed man from the dust of the earth, and He breathed into his nostrils the breath of life “and man became a living soul.”
The apostle Paul speaks of the whole man as “spirit, soul, and body” (1 Thess. 5:23)
First God created the body and gave it His breath — His Spirit — which together with his body made man a living being. He breathed life into the physical form that otherwise would have remained lifeless.
His life, His Spirit, has been the perpetual power given with each person born in every generation. Adam’s wife, Eve, was given life from the same Spirit, but in her body a spirit of her own, her own soul. Together, they produced offspring through the union of their souls and bodies.
Every generation and every individual lives by the same power of God’s Spirit through each one.
Let’s consider another question?
How does God always know where I am and what I am thinking?
“The spirit of a man is the lamp of the Lord,
Searching all the inner depths of his heart.”
When a person dies, what happens to his spirit?
“For man goes to his eternal home,…
Then the dust will return to the earth as it was,
And the spirit will return to God who gave it.”
“Do not put your trust in princes,
Nor in a son of man, in whom there is no help.
His spirit departs, he returns to his earth;
In that very day his plans perish.”
Alone Physically but Not Spiritually
Considering these references let’s see if we can give a clear understanding to our first question.
Since Jerry’s death two years ago, I have been alone physically. Every room has been silent, only one side of the bed needs to be turned down at night and remade each morning. I have only one plate to fill, empty, and clean, and only a few clothes to launder – no more pills and bandages, no more bloody sheets, no wheelchair, no moaning, and groaning. But, oh, how I miss his moaning and his dependency on me – not constantly, but still occasionally I miss him and my spirit mourns.
Overriding this tearing away of the “one flesh” stage of life – overarching this flood that has taken place to establish the next stage — is the assurance of our Father’s presence by His continual Spirit with my spirit.
“The Spirit Himself bears witness with our spirit
that we are children of God,”
Our Father created us all through Adam and Eve, our first parents, but because of their disobedience, we are individually born into this world with the sentence of death.
But by His grace, we are given new life – eternal life – through Christ, His Son. His Holy Spirit quickens us, and gives this new life to those who believe and obey Him; we live in the assurance of His presence with us now and forever. (Eph. 2:1)
His Spirit within us is His means to carry us from one stage to another, through every loss, with victory over our feelings and struggles. He continues to teach us through His written Word of the promises that are ours.
“Why are you cast down, O my soul?
And why are you disquieted within me?
Hope in God, for I shall yet praise Him
For the help of His countenance.”
Jesus said to His disciples, “…you will be scattered, each to his own, and will leave Me alone. And yet I am not alone, because the Father is with Me.” Jn. 16:32
“For He Himself has said, “I will never leave you nor forsake you.”
Heb. 13:5; Isa. 41:10
Perhaps my greatest witness of this truth is that “the new heart and new spirit” our Father gave Jerry and me as “one flesh” was not taken from me. Even as He united us together as one in Christ, His Spirit still dwells in me, giving life, strength, and joy to my soul – while Jerry is beholding and enjoying His eternal glory in heaven.
Dear Father in Heaven, hallowed be your name in the lives of all your children in every stage of this life, your Spirit bringing us to you as you have planned for each of us. In Jesus’ name, I pray, Amen.
(Unedited excerpt from Our FATHER Hears ~ The Voice of Daughters Crying in the Wilderness — in process for publication this year.)
4 thoughts on “Alone ~ but NOT Alone”
Thank you for this, Fran.
Absolutely beautiful in thought and word, Fran ❤️🙏🏻❤️
Praying for you; can’t imagine not having my spouse
Frances, I’m so sorry for your loss. And yet how comforting to know that Jerry isn’t in pain anymore – that his groaning has been replaced with songs of praise to your Lord, and that someday you will praise Him together.
May the Lord bless you with that assurance and the sense of His presence every day of your life.