(This is a follow-up from the previous article. If you have not read it I encourage you to read it before you read this article.)
There are many single women today who are discontent with their families, their education, their jobs, their singleness, and many other reasons; not only unbelievers but Christian women as well. Some Christian women that I know personally want to be married and have a family. They sincerely want a husband with whom they can share their life and to bear children. This is a noble desire, a natural desire for women in all ages. My only counsel, as an older woman, is that you not make this the main focus in your life.
As the apostle Simon Peter writes in his second letter to those who are waiting for the second coming of our Lord, the message is to us today. Whether male or female, young or old, while we wait for a new heavens and a new earth, we are to “grow in grace and the knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ.” 2 Peter 3:18 Take advantage of this time in your life to immerse yourself in His word and prayer; not so that you can be an expert and able to argue certain doctrine, but so that you can humbly discern the faith of others (I did not say to judge) and support and compliment one that may become your husband.
Some beautiful women have no problem finding a husband (we cite the record of Rachel and Leah, Genesis 29-30), yet their lives are no happier than a single woman without one. This is the point that I want to make.
If you are unhappy with your situation now, a husband will not make your life any happier. Your contentment is not dependent on your position in life, but on the condition of your heart. Is Christ all to you now? Then He is enough. If Christ is your life, then live humbly and fully in the joy of His presence. His work of grace in your heart will make you more desirous to those who are looking for a virtuous wife. Your contentment will be an attraction to others. It says to a man that you are not dependent on others for your happiness. It relieves a prospective husband of the burden (the oppression) of making you happy.
Seeing Christ as your contentment and joy is an encouragement to others that you would be a suitable help mate. And if God does not give you to a man, then live in service always to Him. He will more than fulfill your need for companionship and love in this world, with the promise of an eternal love beyond that which any man can give.
” A Christian has that which may make him content. Has not God given you Christ? In Him there are unsearchable riches. He is such a gold mine of wisdom and grace that all the saints and angels can never dig to the bottom. Never complain as long as Christ is your Friend. He is an enriching pearl, a sparkling diamond. The infinite luster of His merits makes us shine in God’s eyes. In Him there is both fulness and sweetness. He is indescribable good. Lift up your thoughts to the highest pinnacle; stretch them to the utmost; let them wander to their full latitude and extent—yet they fall infinitely short of those ineffable and inexhaustible treasures which are locked up in Jesus Christ. And is there not enough here to give the soul contentment: A Christian who lacks necessities, yet, having Christ, has the one thing needful.” ~ Thomas Watson The Art of Divine Contentment
Dear Father, I pray for these women whose desires are not fulfilled; who feel that they need something else in life beyond what you have given. Reveal Christ as the fulfillment, the contentment and joy that you meant Him to be when you sent Him to the earth. As the propitiation for our sins you have expressed and bestowed a love beyond any that we can ask for or understand. Make us all humble, accepting the role and position you have given each of us in this life. Thank you for the hope of your fulfilling every promise that you have given us in your word, now and for eternity. In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen
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